If you’ve gone through a divorce in the past or are dealing with one right now then you know how overwhelming all the negative thoughts, feelings and emotions can get. All of this negativity and stress can make day-to-day life hard. Some mornings it may seem impossible to get out of bed and take on the day. The best thing you can do for yourself is learn to relax, let go of the stress and let the chips fall where they may. This may sound easier said than done, but if you’re willing to be good to yourself and take the advice listed below then you have a good chance to overcome the stressors of divorce and find your happy place again.
Don’t Neglect Your Emotional Wellbeing
When you have so much going on, places to be, things to do, and your mind feels like a roaster coaster with no off switch it’s easy to put your emotional needs on the back burner. Make sure you allow yourself the time and release of speaking with someone. Whether it’s a therapist, minister, or just a close friend, being able to talk out what you’re feeling is a huge help when it comes to relieving stress.
While it’s great to be nurturing towards others, right now you need to focus on nurturing yourself. Take a hot bath, read a great book or pick up a new hobby. Work on creating a lifestyle that you love and one that will create good self-worth now and in the future.
Don’t Try to Fix Everything
Realize that there are always going to be things that are out of your control. When you run into these don’t let them stress you. Instead allow yourself to let go and move on from it. If it’s something that you have to deal with then come back to it at a later time, otherwise put it out of your mind permanently.
Accept Your Emotions and Deal with them Constructively
Pushing your feelings to the side is not effective or wise. You need to let yourself feel. Odds are that you’re going through a wide range of emotions during the course of, and even after, your divorce. It’s important that you allow yourself to feel all these things but that you do so in a way that’s constructive. Don’t allow what you’re feeling to cause you to seek revenge, play the victim, lash out at your ex, or turn you to drinking or drugs. When your emotions seem to be getting the best of you find someone safe that you can vent to. Release those emotions in a healthy way.
Make time for yourself, do things that you love and make you happy and eventually, when you’re able, let go. Remind yourself often that while divorce is hard and stressful, it isn’t the end of the world. Taking the advice above doesn’t mean that your divorce will be easy, but it will make it a lot easier than it could be.