As we go through our daily lives none of us dwell on the many things that could go wrong at any moment. We tend to, without even realizing it, feel that we are invincible and that nothing will disrupt our perfect bubble. Because of this when something does pop that bubble, like a spouse being diagnosed with a serious, or even deadly, illness we are more often than not entirely unprepared. If, unfortunately, you’re one of the many that have found themselves in this horrible position then here are a few things to keep in mind when you’re asking yourself how you’re going to get not only your spouse, but also yourself, through this hard time.
You Can Do It
You wouldn’t be the first, or the last, person to immediately think, “I can’t do this,” when you get hit with the news that your spouse is seriously ill. The first thing you have to do is remind yourself that yes, you absolutely can. A great way to make it through the beginning of this journey is to not try to take on the whole world all at once. Instead of trying to combat the entire illness or the whole reality right away, instead focus on what you need to handle right now. By allowing yourself to take things one step at a time you will greatly reduce the amount of stress that you and your spouse are dealing with.
You’re a Team
In most relationships in life when something negative happens to a friend, family member, or spouse, then the other party is going to want to “fix” the problem. In cases where serious illness has come into play this often isn’t the best route to take. Obviously, it’s unlikely that you’ll be able to change the outcome of the diagnosis, so instead of taking on an “I can conquer this,” attitude instead try to understand what your spouse is going through and be there for them emotionally. Don’t overdo it with the optimism. Instead, let your partner know how you’re really feeling but also that no matter what, you’re in this together.
Take Time to be Together
Once this terrifying illness has made its way into your lives it’ll be easy for everything other than thoughts of treatment and recovery to get pushed to the side. It’s important that you both make an effort to still enjoy being together. Plan date nights, have family dinners, do the things together that you loved to do before disease was a part of your life. Not only will it strengthen your connection with each other, but it will also help lift your spirits individually.
Although disease and illness can be one of the most terrifying things a family ever has to go through, it is entirely possible to do so. It’s so important that you remember not to take on too much at once, that you’re in it for the long haul, and that the love you have for each other goes far beyond anything an unexpected illness can throw your way.